Positive Affirmations For Self Esteem
You might know a boy or girl who has heard nothing but negative things said about them while growing up. They might feel like just a piece of garbage if that’s what they’ve been called in school or at home their whole lives. How can positive affirmations for self esteem help their sense of worth and value now?
I know a gal who used to be stuck in a strange pattern. She felt fat and ugly when in fact she was quite beautiful. Her father had called her fat and ugly for as long as she could remember. He was an abusive father both verbally and physically, and it affected her to the point that she really believed it, even when everybody else told her she was pretty.
How many of us walk around and see people that look good, but inside they are feeling ugly, as if they’re not worth a dime? As the saying goes, you can never tell a book by its cover as many people dress well and look like they have it together. It can seem like they don’t need positive affirmations for self esteem. What you might not know is that at home, behind closed doors, they are screaming in their heart for someone to acknowledge them, to recognize them, to think they are someone special.
We may even feel like that sometimes. But we don’t say it out loud, not even to ourselves. Maybe we don’t want to admit that we want someone to acknowledge us. I find this uniquely true of boys and guys. They might want some recognition from a specific person, but they would not come out to say anything to that person. Maybe the most they will admit to themselves is, “I will make that person acknowledge me someday. I will surpass them even. Just you watch.”
For whatever reason, people of Asian descent in particular may not directly ask or confront a person to notice them but on the side they will desire, crave or fight in some indirect way for that person’s attention. You could say this happens a lot in parent-children relationships of the culture.
What do you do when saying positive things to someone is seen as weakness or taboo? What good then are positive affirmations for self esteem? The fact is, even the most stoic-looking face wants to be acknowledged and affirmed in some way, shape or form. They may not show their feelings directly, but deep down inside, they want to feel good about themselves.
Nowadays when you go to the self-help section in a bookstore or even online for self-development courses, you will see a lot on the science and psychology of happiness. People have figured out that people want to be happy.
So what positive affirmations for self esteem can you give to your children, especially when you’re feeling tired and angry yourself? I always address this because the reality of most families and lives is that 80-90% of the time, we have to fight our way to peace. That’s not a popular view of peace, but in many ways it’s like training in the military so you will be fit to stay calm and peaceful while craziness and strife happens all around you. Explosions, land mines, etc.
Here are some useful positive affirmations for self esteem you can say to your kids when you get a chance to connect for a tender moment:
- You belong here. With me.
- I will always love you.
- You mean more than the world to me.
- You are so worth it.
- You are my reason to smile.
- I am so glad God gave me you.
- You are worth more than a diamond to me.
Here are some positive affirmations for self esteem you can think to yourself when you’re not feeling up to par:
- I belong.
- I am loved.
- I am lovable.
- I am accepted for who I am.
- I am infinitely valuable.
- I am somebody’s reason to smile.
- I am welcomed by others.
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