Want to Live a Meaningful Life?
Many moms eventually reach a point in life where they ask themselves, “What is my purpose in life?” Trying to figure out how to live a meaningful life can be difficult. Women today have many more options than they did in the past, but these can be overwhelming. Should a woman try to be a stay at home mom and raise a family? Should she pursue a career outside the home? Is it possible to do both? Finding answers to these questions can be daunting, but ultimately very rewarding.
The journey to find What is my purpose in life? is different for different people, but a commonality for each person is having a vision for what they want. Knowing what you want and achieving your goals along the way is extremely important to finding a purpose in life. For instance, I knew a woman who had a very lucrative career outside the home who, when she had kids, realized that something was missing. She quit her high paying (but demanding) job and took part time work so she could be there for her children. She walked away from a lot of money, but she was ultimately much more fulfilled with her children.
Likewise, I knew of a young woman who had children right after high school and found she was empty once her kids began going to school. She sat down, examined her interests, and realized she wanted to be a nurse. So while her kids were in school, she went to school, too. She now has a fulfilling career working in a hospital, finding satisfaction in helping others.
What is my purpose in life? is a big question. It’s helpful to break it down to the difference between success and significance. When you accomplish something for yourself, it is success. When you build something for the benefit of others, it is significance. Like the woman in the first story, she had career success, but felt insignificant when it came to her children. In the second story, the woman was obviously significant to her children, but felt she had little success once they began to get older. Finding that balance, and finding what truly makes you happy, will ultimately allow you to answer the question: What is my purpose in life?
There’s also a difference between having a purpose and having a calling. Each life serves a purpose or end goal, but not everyone is aware what their purpose in life is. A calling is divinely inspired, supernaturally given, so when a person is called, it’s to something so specific that they become aware, activated and passionate to collaborate with the Divine to get it accomplished. In the Christian faith, Moses was specifically called to free the Hebrews from slavery; he heard the call from God and was made fully aware of the call. Even though he was reluctant, God activated him to his calling and allowed him to passionately suffer with the Israelites to make it happen.
Are you starting to ask yourself, “What IS my purpose in life anyway?” Are there desires and dreams buried inside your heart that you haven’t seen for a while? I love this definition of a dream by Dr. John C. Maxwell: “A dream is an inspiring picture of the future that energizes your mind, will, and emotions, empowering you to do everything you can to achieve it. A dream worth pursuing is a picture and blueprint of a person’s purpose and potential.”
Since I was a little girl of seven, I’d started asking, “What is my purpose in life?” I was a curious one, wanting to know how life worked and what made people tick. I took many detours and got confused along the way, but keep coming back to the desire to impact people’s lives for the kingdom of God.
It’s never too late to start dreaming, keeping in mind that fulfilling one’s dream involves sacrifice. Living a meaningful life is a lot like getting fit and healthy. You have to make it happen. You have to map out a plan to pursue your dream. You’ll experience obstacles and setbacks as you “fail forward.” Renew your dream. Refresh it and refocus it. Keep at it and never give up. There will be no stopping you. You can start and re-start as many times as you need as you ignite your potential, pursue your God-given dreams, and design a meaningful life you love.
Are you struggling with the question, “What is my purpose in life?” Give yourself a free 15-minute exploration session to get a feel for how to discover your purpose.