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Want A Meaningful Life?

By jinnialow · Comments (20)
Saturday, November 10th, 2012

Have you ever wondered if there is more to life than what you’ve experienced so far?

Perhaps there are desires and dreams buried inside of your heart that you haven’t seen for a while.

There are a lot of misconceptions about dreams, and many people are not encouraged to dream.  Maybe you’re one of them.  For most of my life including the early parts, I was not encouraged to dream.  I scarcely recall a teacher or adult in my early years who has made a difference in my life in ways that I can remember – until I learned to dream again with role models I found as an adult.

I love this definition of a dream by Dr. John C. Maxwell:  “A dream is an inspiring picture of the future that energizes your mind, will, and emotions, empowering you to do everything you can to achieve it.  A dream worth pursuing is a picture and blueprint of a person’s purpose and potential.”

It’s never too late to start dreaming.  And there’s hope to dream again – this time, with excellent tools to help you succeed.  As someone who has battled through disappointment, inner heartache and deep emotional hurts, I believe you can re-start as many times as you need to pursue your potential and purpose.

Uncover your buried desires, re-ignite your dreams, and design a meaningful life you love!

For practical tips, transparent stories, affirmations, prayers and soul-searching exercises, I invite you to check out my new book (co-authored with a dear friend and colleague) and music CD here:

http://www.RisingDelight.com

It’s time to let the light within you shine!

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Cherish the Moments

By jinnialow · Comments (0)
Sunday, April 7th, 2013

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Living in a fast-paced area, we have learned to cherish any pockets of time in which moments are carved out.  It is like taking a moment as it happens and capturing it so we could remember it forever.

One such moment is when my husband, kids and I visited the Monterey Bay Aquarium during Spring Break.  It is a glorious display of the intricacies of creation!  Marvelous works of fish, birds and seahorses – among much more.

In times like these that are set aside for us to enjoy each other as a family, and get reminded of all the variety there is in the animal kingdom, we are awed yet again at the wonderful variety of humans that God has created in each of us.

There’s a purpose for each and every life.  You may or may not know what that purpose is exactly, but I’ll bet you have an idea of what is important to you and your family.

If you were to sit down with a piece of paper and write out 3-5 things in your life that you couldn’t do without, what would they be?

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Connecting Over The Holidays

By jinnialow · Comments (0)
Friday, December 21st, 2012

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At first glance it may appear that most people are quite busy over the holiday season.  There are decorations, festivities and meals to cook.  There are people, Christmas cards and schedules to coordinate.

What about you?  What are your plans over this season?

When I was a little girl, I loved looking at the bright, beautiful Christmas lights.

I imagined a cozy, happy family enjoying being together.

I still imagine it.

And while I’m imagining, I’d like to say: Merry Christmas to you and yours!!

What I treasure immensely is real, purposeful CONNECTION.  It is a theme in my life and a gift that I delight to give.  When there are opportunities to connect with old friends, college buddies and close family, I will be intentional about cherishing those opportunities and letting others know they are appreciated.

After all, we never know how long we will have on earth to let them know that we love them.

This season, I look forward to giving positive time, listening, gifts and words.

What do you look forward to about connecting over the holidays?

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Slowing Down To Listen Up

By jinnialow · Comments (10)
Thursday, November 15th, 2012

Hello!  This morning I sat down and intentionally journaled.

It felt so very good, like drinking nectar for my soul.

Due to incredible busy-ness (which of us here are not ever busy??), I had allowed my habit of free writing each morning to slip and I felt the effects of being disconnected with myself.

It’s been almost 2 weeks since I’ve listened to the inner workings of my soul. I enjoy those times. I enjoy when I really get to hear from God. I enjoy writing down thoughts and feelings. I have been busy with getting the marketing for my book and CD, sales pages, squeeze pages and those kinds of things done. Those things are good too. But I notice a distinct difference in my attitude. I’m less happy generally. It’s as if my inner rhythm had been thrown off, now asking for balance to be re-established. I’m more than happy to re-establish it. I know it’s the best thing, the right thing, the thing that most pleases God.

So I set my timer to 15 minutes and free wrote whatever came to mind.  I’d like to share a piece of that writing here from my heart to yours:

I prefer to go a slower pace, if that means establishing a sustainable rhythm for me and my family that honors everybody’s needs.  That is the highest priority for me.

One cannot so much say, “Slow down,” unless one has a means of pouring something in as a substitute.  For instance, slowing down in our westernized society carries with it a sense of loss or less productivity, accomplishment, or success.  However, without “slowing down” as our minds understand it, we cannot truly tune in and listen to the real sounds that move us.  The motions we make are emptied of meaning, value and substance.

Motion, to be effective, must be preceded and bathed in emotion, of the pure and right kind, as given by God.  We can only have this kind of passion when we are in deep communion times with God.  We can only do this when we are still and listening, not when we are running around trying to get a million things crossed off our to-do lists.

I believe in setting goals.  When we have clear goals to boundarize our days (not sure if boundarize is a word), then we can slow down without guilt when we need more time to reflect and process.

A goal is basically a clarified desire set to a date.  When you know what you want and project it out to the future of when you want it by, you’re setting a goal.  I can say that our family wants to go to Disneyland for Winterbreak, but until we put an actual date on the calendar, that remains a desire yet to be born.

I have honestly struggled with setting goals, because setting them requires being attuned to our desires.  During the times that my desires were buried underneath the surface of my everyday life and responsibilities as a stay a home mom, I wasn’t all too aware of what I wanted.  So, setting goals was not something I habitually did, until recently as I’m growing out of my comfort zone.

I now prefer to think of myself not so much as “slowing down” as I am “listening up.”  And in order to “listen up,” I require an environment of stillness that I intentionally carve out of my busy days.

I am thrilled to be learning ways to use music and sound.  I’m also excited to be hosting a class at the end of November to share my findings on how to process and master your emotions using different techniques.  You’re invited to the online gathering!  You can register here:  http://DesignWithJinnia.com/Master-Your-Emotions

Listening is such an art in itself and a beautiful one at that.  Do you know there’s a difference between hearing and listening?  What do you suppose the difference is?  I’d love to read your answers!

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Overcoming Emotional Blocks

By jinnialow · Comments (0)
Monday, October 29th, 2012

It is incredible how our feelings can block us from receiving – even seeing – the solutions in front of us that want to come to us.

We may not even know that we feel a certain way, especially if we are used to methods of coping with our situations, rather than finding the cause for them.

Methods like running away from the problem, avoiding the person who we perceive to be the problem, or escaping to a “better place” in our head.

These methods may seem to work for a while.  We even likely feel less pain.  But the problem with them is that we become numb and even asleep to finding the real solution, the real root of the issue.

Then our feelings get locked in our body and our perspective gets skewed to where we don’t see solutions that are right in front of us, waiting to be discovered.  A lot of the answers to your problems and my problems are right in front of us, or within us.  The fact that I believe that God leads me, guides and teaches me, amplifies the power for me to find these answers, because He is so powerful.

Case in point, for the past 2 weeks I have experienced this up close and personal.  Without going into details, suffice it to say, I had been blocked from receiving love from an individual and blocked from seeing the solutions for our relationship and friendship, that are so expansive and limitless.  God wants us to be free of resentment and jealousy and yet here I was, struggling with those feelings.  And until I expressed them on paper through free writing, I was denying them, or strategically burying them without being fully aware of what I was doing to jeopardize the relationship.

I am thankful to God for opening me up to bring my feelings and emotions to Him for healing, in powerful, relevant and effective ways.  Instead of avoiding the person, or running away from the situation, I faced it head on and literally felt the block lift up and away from me.  And then I saw the most beautiful, wondrous and amazing solutions to continue our relationship moving forward.

How do you deal with feelings that you may have that get in the way of your relationships?

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Keep The Post Conference “High” Going

By jinnialow · Comments (0)
Tuesday, September 18th, 2012

I’ve been to many live conferences – all EXCELLENT!  I’ve met and networked with amazing, talented, go-getters as well as uncertain, timid and scared entrepreneurs.  Despite the ups and highs I gained at these conferences, I was missing some key ingredients and stayed one of the latter for a long time…

Until recently!

I’ve learned an all-important lesson about attending conferences and I hope this benefits you somehow:

Be strategic when it comes to attending live conferences.  Know what you want out of it and set your intentions high.  You may or may not get ALL the answers that you wanted, but by writing them down or marking them somewhere, you know for yourself what your intentions are. 

Why is this important?

For me personally, it set me up to battle against post-conference lows.  Oh it will happen…not to be negative, but realistic.  And the reason it happened with me was that I learned and absorbed a lot (I love to learn), but I had little personal connection and immediate actionable steps I could take to implement right away.  When you have THAT MUCH EXCITEMENT AND POSSIBILITY being poured into you, and your perspective is expanded SO MUCH IN SO LITTLE TIME, all that ENERGY needs a place to be stored and used through direct application!!!

Why?  Well, once you return home and see your kids (if you have kids) happy to see you but they start complaining…or you see your expenses and no real clear way to translate your passion and message…or your spouse questions you and you feel spent…or you feel like you’re on the verge of a cold or cough…blah blah blah

Now what?  What happens to the HIGH?

Let me share with you how I intend to battle this baby – to keep the high going in everyday real life!  And it will not necessarily resemble the high that you experience at the actual conference, but it’s a converted energy and strength that you can take with you wherever you go.

First of all, I set my intentions/expectations for the trip:

  • To know and become more connected with the company culture and leadership.
  • To meet my team in person and get a more tangible feel for how we can work together.
  • To know *clearly* and ask God to show me:

1.  My skill sets that are immediately marketable with the matched focused product in my chosen field.

2.  My niche – the specific needs I can meet with focused sustainable effort, that allows me to keep my priorities in order and taps into what I’m passionate about.

3.  My target audience.

I believe I have been shown clearly #1 and #2.  #3 is still a work in progress but it will not stop me this time.  Although I struggled with perfectionistic tendencies all my life, today it dies in my seat!  (That’s also an intention.  Now, I may still struggle with it and that’s perfectly fine.)

So how is this translating into a marketable business plan for me?

1.  The skill sets that were clearly affirming me during the convention were: listening, extracting information, helping someone feel valued, asking quality questions…many of these are music & language & sound related skills.  Those are immediately translatable to coaching!

2.  For a long time I struggled with what content I could keep blogging about, doing videos on, etc. while maintaining live contact with clients and customers, while keeping my priorities in line with my family??  Here’s my answer…find the specific needs you can meet with focused sustainable effort, that allows you to be balanced and taps into what you’re passionate about.  For me, the specific needs I am passionate about meeting right away, right now, are helping people be in touch with their feelings and feel renewed from being stressed, tired, overwhelmed, depressed, etc.  Who has these feelings?

3.  My target audience.  I’m working this out through this blog post as we speak!  My audience includes a wide range right now, because I desire to serve all these people.  I’ve been taught in marketing to narrow it down and I understand the value of it and I’m continuing to figure out how to do it.  So right now, my target audience are leaders that are moms, entrepreneurs and authors – because I know a lot of them and understand clearly that their jobs require a lot of energy output which can leave them feeling drained and tired.

Now the big question!  How to put this all together?  Good question!  I’ll let you know as I go, but for now I am implementing ONE change in each area of my life:  Family, Business, Personal Growth.

1. Family:  Invest 10-15 minutes every day with each of my children to find out how they’re doing and if necessary, coach them in some area of their life.

2. Business:  Develop emotional wholeness coaching resources, for live and teleconference style venues.

3. Personal Growth:  Read the emotional wellness books I purchased at the convention and connect them with my personal experience, so that I can effectively communicate in my chosen field of work which is now being intertwined with my passion.

Working in your sweet spot excellently and imperfectly is, in my opinion, THE way to experience the best of designing your life and work to fit you.  In other words, extract what connects with you, stands out to you, speaks to you, or touches you…and crawl with it, walk with it, or run with it!  Whatever fits in with your schedule, do it and do one thing towards it every day, or regularly enough to let it become a habit for life!  That is how I intend to keep the post conference “high” going!

Much love,

Jinnia

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Taking Things Too Personally? How to Release and Let Go…

By jinnialow · Comments (4)
Thursday, July 12th, 2012

Below is an excerpt from my book “The Queens Journal” which is available on Amazon through http://www.RisingDelight.com

When someone asks you to make a change, how do you respond?

It could be anywhere- on the job, at home, at school, at church.

Today our daughter and son were playing together when he asked her, “Can you not pull on my sleeve so hard?”

Her eyes immediately welled up and turned red.  She started explaining why she was doing it and the fact that he did something similar to her before.  We thought she was taking it personally because the way our son asked her was calm, matter-of-fact and non-accusatory.  We thought, “What’s going on?”

We attempted to explain to her that she was simply being asked to make an adjustment; it wasn’t a judgment on her character.  That was a difficult concept for her to grasp.  That’s ok.  She’s not a grown-up.  Sometimes that’s a hard concept for a grown-up to embrace too.

The thing about parenting that can be tricky is this…the fact is, she was taking this a little personally.  But in order to get through to her, we couldn’t just tell her, “You’re taking this too personally.” We needed a different approach.

We needed to help her see a new perspective.

So we did our best to coach her on that.  Gave her a quiet “time-out” and while she was there talked and dug into her thoughts.  We discovered she felt like she was a “bad person” when our son asked her to make a change.  So we gently told her, “You’re not a bad person.  You’re a good person with a good heart.”  And we instructed her, “Next time someone asks you to make a change or tells you what they didn’t like, stop.  Take a deep breath and don’t say what first comes to your mind.  Instead, we want you to think to yourself, “I’m still a good person” and then tell them, “I will think about what you said.”

Dear God, I hope and pray this helps her when someone asks, or even tells her, to make a change.  Help her to recognize the lies that she may be hearing about her value and worth, so that she can not hold those lies in her sweet little heart, but instead let them go and release them for you to take.  Then please give her Your truth in her heart to replace the lies.

In this video, I explain more on the practice of releasing that will be fully revealed in our upcoming book, The Queen’s Journal, where we go in depth to cover how to make your inner home a palace.

If you ever have a hard time letting go (don’t we all sometimes?), I hope you’ll experience some refreshing uplift through this song called “Surrender”.


What have you found to work for you or your kids when it comes to helping them let go and not take things too personally?

 

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Happy Heart, Cheerful Countenance

By jinnialow · Comments (0)
Tuesday, July 10th, 2012

Hello!  How are you?  I’ve been going deep with the material for our book that’s coming out in Fall 2012, The Queen’s Journal.  It’s an interactive guide to making your inner home a palace, meaning it will go REALLY DEEP ~ as deep as you want and allow into your heart ~ into spiritual principles, practical tips, questions and stories that will show you how incredibly wacky human we are!  We love to be authentic and give you a safe place to learn about people and God, so be on the lookout for the book and hope you enjoy the weekly video clips previewing some of the material we’re covering!

Also! If you’re dealing with a lack of energy, motivation, or emotional issues that are weighing you down, you may want to learn how to feel renewed & radiant in your body as well to bring full support to you and your family’s health.  We’ll be hosting a live session to chat and answer any questions our guests have about secrets on using essential oils to support wholeness and vibrancy in our lives.

You’re invited!  http://bit.ly/NiHvA1

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Start Tapping into Your Value and Worth

By jinnialow · Comments (1)
Monday, July 2nd, 2012

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Hello!  I hope you had a rejuvenating weekend.  My family and I had a lot of fun on Saturday and on Sunday we were in need of naps!

I’ve been revamping my schedule for the summer and you would think it’s more relaxed around the house but what’s actually happening is a soul fire has been kindled and it’s very exciting!

Most of my life I worked through and in spite of my insecurities.  Well now I am harnessing those to become a storyteller.  I’m partnering with a dear friend who’s an author, speaker, teacher and leader to co-author a book that’s scheduled to be released in Fall 2012 – so that means I am holding to a summer production schedule that’s both exhilirating and challenging!  Cuz I get to do what I absolutely love and share my thoughts, own struggles, failure and how to rise from the ashes of burn-out.  In a nutshell.  More videos and articles to come as I learn and produce content as I go.

Here’s a video where I share how to start tapping into your own value and worth.

Leave me a comment and tell me what are your favorite ways to teach value and worth to your children or to those you influence?

If you missed our Ignite Your Vibrancy call in June, you can catch catch it here:  http://bit.ly/M8oVa1

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Inspiration Comes, Captured And Released For Good

By jinnialow · Comments (4)
Saturday, June 23rd, 2012

Sometimes inspiration comes to me while I’m out and about.

Or washing the dishes.

That’s when I grab for a scrap of paper to scribble down the words…

Since I started writing music again, bits of sounds and lyrics would come to me and it’s been so fun engaging this side of me.

I feel so much more connected with who I am, that I’m more apt see the good in myself (rather than being hard on myself).  In so doing, I feel free to see the good in others and bring it out.  Such a fun way to live!

I want to share my latest song with you.  And it’s been a blast working with a dear friend of mine to co-author a book as well!

The hard copy of our book is on its way for Fall 2012, as well as a whole album inspired by this project!  Right now you can sign up to receive a copy of the Queens Journal interactive guide and the song “Beautiful Queen” at:  http://bit.ly/M8oVa1

Closing thought for the day:

Seeing the good in others becomes so much easier when you see the good in yourself.

 

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