Below is an excerpt from my book “The Queens Journal” which is available on Amazon through http://www.RisingDelight.com

When someone asks you to make a change, how do you respond?

It could be anywhere- on the job, at home, at school, at church.

Today our daughter and son were playing together when he asked her, “Can you not pull on my sleeve so hard?”

Her eyes immediately welled up and turned red.  She started explaining why she was doing it and the fact that he did something similar to her before.  We thought she was taking it personally because the way our son asked her was calm, matter-of-fact and non-accusatory.  We thought, “What’s going on?”

We attempted to explain to her that she was simply being asked to make an adjustment; it wasn’t a judgment on her character.  That was a difficult concept for her to grasp.  That’s ok.  She’s not a grown-up.  Sometimes that’s a hard concept for a grown-up to embrace too.

The thing about parenting that can be tricky is this…the fact is, she was taking this a little personally.  But in order to get through to her, we couldn’t just tell her, “You’re taking this too personally.” We needed a different approach.

We needed to help her see a new perspective.

So we did our best to coach her on that.  Gave her a quiet “time-out” and while she was there talked and dug into her thoughts.  We discovered she felt like she was a “bad person” when our son asked her to make a change.  So we gently told her, “You’re not a bad person.  You’re a good person with a good heart.”  And we instructed her, “Next time someone asks you to make a change or tells you what they didn’t like, stop.  Take a deep breath and don’t say what first comes to your mind.  Instead, we want you to think to yourself, “I’m still a good person” and then tell them, “I will think about what you said.”

Dear God, I hope and pray this helps her when someone asks, or even tells her, to make a change.  Help her to recognize the lies that she may be hearing about her value and worth, so that she can not hold those lies in her sweet little heart, but instead let them go and release them for you to take.  Then please give her Your truth in her heart to replace the lies.

In this video, I explain more on the practice of releasing that will be fully revealed in our upcoming book, The Queen’s Journal, where we go in depth to cover how to make your inner home a palace.

If you ever have a hard time letting go (don’t we all sometimes?), I hope you’ll experience some refreshing uplift through this song called “Surrender”.

What have you found to work for you or your kids when it comes to helping them let go and not take things too personally?